You aggravate ME!!!!

So why are WE never attracted to the people that are attracted to us the most?? So have you ever had a guy/girl like you a lot? But because he/she was not your " CUP OF TEA" How do we explain to people without hurting his/her feelings that we are not attracted to them?

So one of good friends and I were talking the other day, and she was explaining to me about this guy who had a serious love interest in her.For some reason she was not attracted to anything about him. I met the guy and thought he was GREAT for her. I cannot live other peoples lives.. Therefore it really didn't matter what I thought because she was the one who had to date this guy.

Do looks play a major part in a persons mind, when he/she is deciding whether or not they want to pursue a relationship with this individual? Are we as people shallow when it comes to relationships? Should we look beyond all of the Pet Peeves that have been broken, and all the aggravating things this individual has said, and done? Personally ignorance plays a key factor in why I Can Become Aggravated with a Person.... Well I am curious in what others think about Looks, personality, and pet Peeves.

Happy Friday

Allow me to say HAPPY FRIDAY, to everyone..
The weekend is here, and I am sure that some will make it a memroble weekend. I on the other hand will be doing school work, relaxing, and trying to realieve myself from stress. I am thinking about cooking tonight, and perhaps I will go pick up a movie or two. So todays topic is setting standards. I wanna know are men and women setting their standards to high realtionship wise? If we lower our standards will we be able to open ourselves up to a world of dating? So people I meet lately I ask them are thy content with their relationship? Most people say they are not.

Personally I have trouble understanding why ANYONE would want to be in a relationship they are not happy with? If you are unhappy why not move on? You could be missing out on someone who you have a lot of potential to grow with. I have a good male friend who has the potential to make any girl he chooses happy. He is in a stagnet relationship that is not going anywhere, but he chooses to leave his crazy Girlfriend. Are people scared of change when it comes to a relationship? ( MAybe thats the New Excuse) Anyway change is good, and you never know how someone different can change you for the good.

In a relationship you need to meet someone you can grow with, and be happy with....

Happy Friday EVERYONE..


Random Thought: Who saw the notrious movie? I was surprised that the movie recieved ratings so high, Biggie was soooo Disresptful to Women. ( Hip Hops Mogul) So what did Diddy think this movie portrayed??? SMH

Ok so this has been me for the last two weeks, I am trying to meet these deadlines for Graduate school, and this shit is not JOKE!!!! I am STRESSED.. Period, I have been asking teachers for recommendation letters, and they are telling me to write my own letter, and they will sign it. WHAT???? Since when do you write your own recommendation letter.. Whatever I am just going to get it done.. I have another week left, and I will do my best to finish this, and send these applications off.. I am consistently telling myself " I can do all Things through Christ that strengthens me."

I have not left you readers, I miss you all and I have A LOT to talk about... Life has thrown some curve balls, and you will be reading about them soon.

SOS

SAve Our SISTERS....

Ok this is a topic that is minimally being spoken about.  People are not speaking to young ladies about the type of realtionships that are healthy to be in. Love does not equal being slapped kicked, or punched. Regardless of how much money he is giving you.  SO many women cross over is what I call it. It is when you date a man because of his money.  When you cross over to dating a man because he has money and your being a GOLD DIGGER you are vulnerable to a whole new world that you are not used to.

Of course the fame, the money, the bling it all looks and seems good. But  is it worth getting your ass whooped over every night? I am sure there are some drug dealers, athletes, and rappers who do not beat their girls or side chicks. But it does happen.  These men are well aware what you are after. The money signs gleam through your eyes, trust me men are no fool when it comes to gold digging women. Therefore he feels it is no problem to hit you when  you get out of line. This man knows if you walk away tomorrow you got him for his money. So women stay in these unhealthy relationships, because " He Loves ME" which is not true, because if he loved you so much he would never put his hands on you. 

Why isn't anyone talking to these young girls about these type of relationships? Why is it being accepted?  How do we save our sistas, who can be soo much more? There are plenty of men out there who are loving and caring. And that does not mean he has to put his hands on you.  Ladies be more observant, and watch the signs, so you can make sure you are not ever going to subjected to this type of relationship. 

MY Life...

Before I start anything allow me to say happy Founder's day to all my beautiful Sorors of Alpha Kappa Alpha, We are 101 years old..

So lets get started, this particular post I dedicate to all of my friends who have taken advice from another friend about RELATIONSHIPS.. I personally do not agree that others should take relationship advice from friends. How can anyone ask someone what to do, if he/she does not understand a persons true feelings for someone else? I dedicate this post to so many people who have asked others for relationship advice, and are now single because they listened to someone else. When a person looks back on a relationship he/she realizes they should have followed their gut feeling.

I have some friends who are in interesting relationships, we do not date the same guys, and we have TOTALLY different taste. Would it make sense for me to take relationship advice from someone who is in a unstable relationship???

Catchin UP

SO I was gone for a second I had some business to handle.. I am preparing to go back to school tomorrow, so I am packing and finishing last minute things... I have had a lot on my mind to talk about so I am going to try and cover it in this post.

This week U had this revelation, that brought me to reality. I feel as though I have been floating and not preparing myself for the next step in life. Graduation is May 9, 2009. I cannot wait and I am very excited, but I am also trying to prepare myself for the next step after undergrad. This is what came to mind: What makes me or anyone else unique, what makes you or me the best candidate for the job/or grad program? Have you participated in enough activites to show leadership skills? How do you qualify for the next step in life?

How mature have you become since you have been in college? Have you built up a vocabulary that is comparable to your other counter parts? How are your writing skills? Do you have enough dress clothes to look professional?

This is just some basic food for thought, because everyone may not be prepared, although we have very little time left, some of us who are getting ready to graduate can prepare for life's next step.....

Reneta Alasha

RELATIONSHIPS...

So when men and women all get together in a room,  the topic is going to come up, we are going to always argue and debate. Relationships, this can be a serious topic and people have their own opinions on relationships.  Personally I love this topic, because I find it interesting to listen to what men have to say as they defend themselves. It is also interesting to me to listen to how women argue or get on the defense about relationships.

Not too long ago I was hit with a curve ball, or a young man said something to me I was not prepared to hear. We are going to call him the ex- factor. He and I dated about four years ago, he is a smart man, and has a degree. Sometime we still hold on to the past, when we should have moved on a long time ago. Well anyway he and I were texting, and we were talking about if we would possibly ever get back together.  So he says to me in a text message, "You have traveled the world and done things I could never imagine, I know you are long gone, and I know you are a totally different person than who you were when we first met; personally I do not believe I can match up to dating someone like you who has done as much as you."  WHAT????????? I could not believe he sent this in a text.  Now he is a couple of years older than me, but at first I thought he was making up a lame excuse.  

After this text message I thought to myself OK he is whack! But as I began to think this was the thought that came to mind: Are men intimidated by strong successful African American women? Are men scared to date women who are educated, are they scared to date women who have more degrees than they do? What does this mean for possible relationships? Will a guy date me if I have a doctorate, and he has a bachelors? Is there any potential there in that relationship?  

Do we all set standards too high as educated people, when it comes to relationships?  Are men really scared of women who are very educated, or does this not affect them?

Allow Me To INTRODUCE myself

It would only be right if  I introduced myself and talked about who I am.. I am twenty- one years old, and I am a college student. I attend a HBCU that is all Women, which is known as Bennett College.. I have matured and grown so much as a woman while I have been in college. I am an only child and I have two great christian loving parents. I have seen so much in this lifetime I would never trade it for the world. This summer I had the opportunity to study in 3 countries in Africa; Ghana, Tanzania, and South Africa. Africa is beautiful I will talk about it eventually. (that is another blog for another day) 

 Currently I am SINGLE, not prepared to jump in a relationship I am unprepared for. (LOL) I have an addiction to fashion and clothes, but every once in a while I do not mind partying with my friends. 

 I hate small minded people, and men who have nothing going for themselves; I dislike women who are jealous and judgmental. Personally I think everyone should live there lives and stop dick ridding others... SO I bring to you all the tales of a twenti-something year old African-American / Native American young lady and her trials on this earth...............