As a woman do we ever wonder how the hell do we meet certain men? What about me attracts this type of man? Or why is this the type of man I always meet? I was always told you are who you attract; is this true? Relationships/ Dating it can all be very tricky.
People always show us who they are in the beginning; however we always make up excuses because we do not want to accept that this is who the person is! It is interesting how men sell woman a dream. They hype themselves up, and tell all these extravagant lies. When it boils down to the true person, he is not who he said he was, nor is his life as extravagant as he described it to be. This normally happens during the "getting to know you phase." I cannot understand why people cannot be real about who they are; why cant people accept their life? At the end of the day you have to live with yourself, so why not accept who you are and embrace it.
About a year ago I met a young man who swept me off my feet! He was everything I needed/wanted. His personality was fantastic as well as his looks. He was a perfect gentleman he approached me with class, he was proper, it was perfect. I met this young man in D.C. and we lived in the same town in North Carolina. It was perfect for the two of us to link up, date, and get to know each other. He spoke about his life, he had a five year plan everything was going great!
The was a small difference between he, and most guys I dated. He was really into church.. Hey no biggie I was glad he LOVED church. I knew from him talking that he has a very close relationship with his pastor. This was good, he even told me he spoke to his pastor about me, and his pastor wanted to meet me. ( Pause not a comfortable feeling for me) Ok I was excited to go to his church and meet his pastor and church family. He finally extends the invitation to attend his church. He and I talked for about three months before he extended the invitation.
I get dressed, and I call my line sisters, school friends everyone. Can someone please go to this church with me. Everyone says NO! Ok I bite the bullet and I go. I made sure my skirt was knee length, I wore normal high heels, I made sure everything was on point. I get to the church it is small maybe like 30 members. everyone knows everyone. Darn, so I walk in and everybody wants to know who I am and who invited me. I tell them they look me up and down and they Oh ok! I have a seat and I moved three different times. The more, and more I move the closer I am to the front. the pastor preaches and church ends! I look for my friend he is having a conversation with someone else. OK I will wait I think to myself, then he leaves!!!
Wait my mind is racing did he just leave church without speaking to me or acknowledging that I am there? No this cannot be happening, I wait around for like five more minutes and he does not come back. I was hoping he and I were going to go do brunch or something after church, none of the above occur. I never meet the pastor, I leave the church and head home. I receive a text later that day from the young man stating " Hey I wanted to speak to you, but I was really under the spirit."
I continued to talk to this young man for a couple of more months, and I went back to his church and he didnt speak. After a while I gave up, I dont believe in the chasing game; life is too short to chase anyone. To this day I still have the unanswered question as to why he did not speak to me in church.
* Why do you think he didnt speak to me in church?
