Dreams

I remember Ashanti had this song on her first self titled album called "dream" and the chrous went "dreams are real, all you have to do is just believe." I wonder how many people have dreams and have never achieved anything they wanted. What is a dream? What is a goal? How do you achieve what you want to do?

I am a firm believer that in life you can do anything that you put your mind to, and the only thing that can hold you back is you. I have met so many people who have expressed there goals, and have stated there are things they want to do in life. When I ask them what steps they are actively taking to achieve those goals they have no answer. Why do people allow there dreams to become deferred? Does fear take over ones mind? We as a society become so complacent and accepting for whatever is currently taking place in our lives. We then get mad at others around us, who have positive things going for them.

I am a pusher.. If I care about someone and I believe in there passion, I am going to push them to become successful. Do what you believe in. Make yourself happy. You only get one shot at life. Why not make it worth your while. Sometimes, we have to remove ourselves from everyone, and everything. When removing yourself from the world for a day or so, you come back and feel refreshed. The purpose of removing yourself is to do some soul searching. Spend some time with yourself get to know yourself a little better. Think about where you currently are, where you want to be, and how you are going to get there. This should be done in all aspects of life. It may sound weird, but soul searching is important. Sometimes you think you know yourself, but you really don't until you spend time by yourself with yourself.

Every goal I wanted to accomplish during my undergraduate years I accomplished it. I am a believer in vision boards, and looking at your vision everyday. When you see your vision everyday you are more likely to succeed, and do what you vision yourself doing. I thank everyone who has /is supporting me in my goals. Since, you are supporting me I will do what I have set out to do. Our conversations have helped, and I will not let you all down. Thank You sooo much for being in my corner. Trust me, when I get there I will put you all on. I cannot do this by myself.

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Playing House

Why are we so against couples living together? What is wrong with a boyfriend and girlfriend choosing to live together, even if they are not married? They say you never really know a person until you live with them. So why is living with someone before marriage so wrong?

I've heard people say that it is not good to live with your significant other before marriage because you will be giving that man "wifey" benefits, and you guys are not married. What would make that man want to marry you, when nothing is going to change but a title? So if you two are already playing house, what should come next?

Suppose you play house, and you two do not workout? What happens? How do you move on? As a society why are people so against a couple moving in together? What are the procedures for moving in with your significant other? Do you have to ask the father? What if you move in with someone and realize they are not who you thought they were? Do you move out, or do you try to make it work? Ultimately what do you get out of playing house? What do you gain, and what do you lose? If in the event that relationship doesn't workout what happens in your next relationship?

Marriage

Prepping for my Sorority Sisters weddings.. I am uber excited, and I cannot wait for these chicas to get married. One of my girls who happens to be the "Maid of Honor" actually does not like the man my Sorority sister is about to spend the rest of her life with. So this conversation I said to my Sorority Sister, that does not matter you are not marrying the man. She agreed, however this conversation made me wonder how many people have stopped talking, or dating someone because there best friend or someone did/ or does not like that person? Have people really cut people off because of someone not liking the person you are dating? How many people would be un-happy, and lonely in life, if they were always worried about what someone else thought about there "significant other?" Personally I do not need someone else's approval to help me determine who I like, or who I want to date. I never ask my friends the questions like "is he cute? What did you think? As a matter of fact I hate when people ask me those questions.

Be happy with the skin your in.. Enjoy whoever you have in life, some people are bitter, some people are jealous because they want what you have.

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