Food For Thought..

I NEED these for Graduation.. Every "REAL LADY" should have a pair of Christian Louboutin's in her closet.

The Pic on the very top explains my MOOD TODAY: I just want to sit and text on my phone, and read fashion Magazines, with my Shades on!!!

Relationship Advice You need to make it through the Day:

So we all have some hidden skeletons that we NEVER want to talk about. Maybe it was things we did in our teens, or maybe when we were in our twenties. So whatever the "secret" is when do you come out and tell your long time boyfriend, or girlfriend, fiance, or husband/wife about your secrets? Or do you keep these skeletons in your closet? I meant does it really matter if you did these weird things? If this person loves you he/she should not care. ( RIGHT)

Should you tell your potential lover about your past? Or should you keep it your past, and leave it at a don't ask, don't tell basis? When dating or getting ready to get married shouldn't you out everything on the table. Who cares you did whatever years ago; why should it matter or effect your relationship..

Personally I would want to know about skeletons or anything crazy in my fiance, or long time boyfriends past. I do not think there is anything wrong with wanting to know about a persons past. It's important to know who you are dating... This is some Food For Thought I had.. I want to hear your opinion on if you want to know about Your current or lifetime Mates past.

* I am aware that these thoughts may have been slightly random today, but random makes me, me.*

Muah to the readers.. <3

What Kind OF Questions????

 So I have been thinking about when you meet a guy or girl. You have a little conversation at the location, or you have a lot of conversation. Eventually if you are digging this person you two will exchange phone numbers, and continue the conversation, which may lead into a possible date; or it will turn into absolutely nothing.

The other day my friend Rebecca and I were having a conversation about a guy she recently met. Long story short, the man was older, but he had a lot of swag!!! (LOL) She did not find out this mans age until they spoke on the phone. Not only did she find out he was nineteen years older than her, she found out he was married and had a ten year old!!!!!!!!! If Rebbecca would not have taken the time out to ask the questions, she would have never found out this information about him. 

This leads me to a series of questions, and roaming thoughts. What are the proper questions to ask before getting to personal?  How do you ask these questions before offending someone?  A lot of people believe that if one does not ask a question then it will never come out.  I want some feedback about what type of questions to ask; and when is the right time to ask these questions? 

Moving ON.. Did anyone see Harlem Heights this past Monday??

I do not know how I am suppose to feel about BET trying to create reality shows.  I am not a big fan of BET whatsoever, and I do not think Harlem Heights will last more than one season. I really wish someone would create a REAL reality show following African- American collegiate men and women.  I think it is important to show people with a college education on television, where ignorance is not promoted.  ( Ok I am done rambling)

Playing Catch Up

Sorry about the long hiatus... Life was a little crazy, and I am just getting back into the groove of blogging. As you can see I am currently adding and making some changes as promised.

Well I had a "snow day" today, therefore I was unable to run the errands I needed to run for the day. So I sat in the house, and watched "Brown Sugar;" the editing for this movie is terrible, but the actual story line is great. Hip Hop is officially dead, and this is something I truly believe. "Brown Sugar" did make me think about the time I fell in love with Hip Hop.. I remember listening to Queen Latiffa's U-N-I-T-Y Although i was young and maybe 4 0r 5 years old, I would bob my head to the beat... I remember listening to TOTAL from 1996-1998, who could forget that era.

Now this crunk music, and do the stanky leg, is HORRIBLE!!!! I hate it, it makes no sense for people to get record deals with these ridiculous lyrics. Overall its whack, and you cannot even bob your head to a beat, where women are being respected in music. This is sad, and who would have ever thought Hip-Hop would be here.


On a lighter note I spent some time in Charlotte with my friend Danielle, and we had a blast.. I cannot believe I have been in North Carolina for four years, and I have missed the CIAA every year.( SMH) the parties were cool, Danielle and I ended up partying with an older crowd OG's ( for the Slow ones, the original Gangstas) but we had a ball, the grown up crowd got it in for sure.. (LOL) unfortunately I didn't take any pictures, so I don't have any to post, from the weekend. Overall the weekend was a blast, and I look forward to the rest of the week in North Carolina when the snow melts.

Believe IN Yourself.

I am doing some revamping in life, and within this blog.. So I have been gone for a while. I am hoping by next week to have the blog looking different and refreshed. I am refreshed and having fun in life as well. I am enjoying my last semester of Undergraduate studies.
With my revamping I am still going to talk about relationships, but I am going to incorporate real issues that I, and others go through as we endure the age of twenty and beyond. I am going to add links, pictures, and make my blog more exciting. So please stay tuned.. Give me about two weeks from today.. Trust me its going to be good.

This was a GREAT weekend. I did a lot of exploring on who I am, and where I am trying to go. As well as how can I conquer all the goals I have set for myself in life. Trust me I dream big and I want to achieve all the goals I have created for myself. So where is all of this coming from? This weekend I was granted the opportunity to hear Hill Harper speak at a conference; he spoke about so many things, but as always people can talk, but there are keywords that are said that stand out. Harper spoke about achieving dreams and having a ground plan for your life that is written in PENCIL, because you are going to have to erase, start over, and revamp. I couldn't agree more. This made me begin to think where am I going? What is it that I want to do? How am I going to get there? What is going to be my limit and age that I want to get there? Personally I do not like sharing my goals, dreams, and visions with other people. I feel when you tell others what you want to do, it does not happen.

After hearing Harper speak he gave a book he wrote "letters to a young daughter" to the audience, and he autographed each and everyones' copy. Well when it was my turn I introduced myself, as a senior at Bennett College for Women. After my introduction Mr. Harper asked me this "what are your goals, after you graduate?" I said I have plans on going to graduate school, and obtaining my Masters in Speech Pathology, and eventually getting my doctoral degree before I am thirty." He looks at me and says "where have you applied?" I give him my three schools. ( I never share this information, being put on the spot I did) he says where is your heart telling you to go? I looked at him, and stated a school. ________ ( Blank School) He proceeds to say to me it's already done. "Get that Doctorate, I am counting on you, and I have faith in you."

After walking away from Mr. Harper and he continued to sign others books, all I could think was is this where my heart wants me to go? Is this where I am suppose to be? What made me say the school I said? These thoughts continuously ran through my head. I am trying to teach myself how to follow my heart and do what I want to do, without allowing anyone else to alter with what I want to do.

I ask this question do you have a blueprint of your life in your bag, folder, or work desk currently? Have you acheived all your goals in life? If you didn't achieve your goals what stopped you? How can you go back to the drawing board, and start over? Are you or have you followed your heart? Or are you following someones elses dream?

You aggravate ME!!!!

So why are WE never attracted to the people that are attracted to us the most?? So have you ever had a guy/girl like you a lot? But because he/she was not your " CUP OF TEA" How do we explain to people without hurting his/her feelings that we are not attracted to them?

So one of good friends and I were talking the other day, and she was explaining to me about this guy who had a serious love interest in her.For some reason she was not attracted to anything about him. I met the guy and thought he was GREAT for her. I cannot live other peoples lives.. Therefore it really didn't matter what I thought because she was the one who had to date this guy.

Do looks play a major part in a persons mind, when he/she is deciding whether or not they want to pursue a relationship with this individual? Are we as people shallow when it comes to relationships? Should we look beyond all of the Pet Peeves that have been broken, and all the aggravating things this individual has said, and done? Personally ignorance plays a key factor in why I Can Become Aggravated with a Person.... Well I am curious in what others think about Looks, personality, and pet Peeves.

Happy Friday

Allow me to say HAPPY FRIDAY, to everyone..
The weekend is here, and I am sure that some will make it a memroble weekend. I on the other hand will be doing school work, relaxing, and trying to realieve myself from stress. I am thinking about cooking tonight, and perhaps I will go pick up a movie or two. So todays topic is setting standards. I wanna know are men and women setting their standards to high realtionship wise? If we lower our standards will we be able to open ourselves up to a world of dating? So people I meet lately I ask them are thy content with their relationship? Most people say they are not.

Personally I have trouble understanding why ANYONE would want to be in a relationship they are not happy with? If you are unhappy why not move on? You could be missing out on someone who you have a lot of potential to grow with. I have a good male friend who has the potential to make any girl he chooses happy. He is in a stagnet relationship that is not going anywhere, but he chooses to leave his crazy Girlfriend. Are people scared of change when it comes to a relationship? ( MAybe thats the New Excuse) Anyway change is good, and you never know how someone different can change you for the good.

In a relationship you need to meet someone you can grow with, and be happy with....

Happy Friday EVERYONE..


Random Thought: Who saw the notrious movie? I was surprised that the movie recieved ratings so high, Biggie was soooo Disresptful to Women. ( Hip Hops Mogul) So what did Diddy think this movie portrayed??? SMH

Ok so this has been me for the last two weeks, I am trying to meet these deadlines for Graduate school, and this shit is not JOKE!!!! I am STRESSED.. Period, I have been asking teachers for recommendation letters, and they are telling me to write my own letter, and they will sign it. WHAT???? Since when do you write your own recommendation letter.. Whatever I am just going to get it done.. I have another week left, and I will do my best to finish this, and send these applications off.. I am consistently telling myself " I can do all Things through Christ that strengthens me."

I have not left you readers, I miss you all and I have A LOT to talk about... Life has thrown some curve balls, and you will be reading about them soon.