Birthday Weekend

June 19th Friday was my birthday..... It was a cool birthday honestly, I am an only child so normally I like to do things BIG. Not this year, I kept it cool, and relaxed... I did the mani/pedi thing... I partied with my homeboy. Saturday I went to Charlotte, did some small shopping, and Sunday I relaxed... It was a good weekend I did not stress, so I am happy about that. Now we are back to Monday and I am in a GREAT mood... Next year will be different for my birthday I plan to take a nice little trip, and be on a beach somewhere....

IS it wrong for me to be upset with certain people who should know and always remember when my birthday is? Or is that somewhat childish? Or is that the only child in me? I am just asking because I am curious... Well I hope my daddy liked his father's day gift.. I hope it was everything he dreamed of.. I got him a gold medallion cross.. He loves crosses, and he's most recent cross something happened to it..

For now on I am going to start leaving inspirational messages on the end of my blogs, to help inspire others, and help others get through the day....

" A goal unwritten is a dream, it becomes a reality when you begin to pursue it."

PS: I don't know what everyone's issue is about being single, I am having sooo much fun being single...

Decisions..

Did you miss me??

 I am serious about this blogging, I am sorry that I have been so distant, I have been doing a lot of work, and preparation for my next step in life. I cannot tell you what I am about to do, but just know I am about to do it big. 

Anywhoo..  I have been living in North Carolina for four years, I am originally from Connecticut, but I moved to NC for college. When I left Connecticut I left everyone I knew there.  Coming to NC was a great experience for me, and its something I will never forget. I have now graduated.  I am preparing myself for my next step and set of goals.

 Where am I going with this you ask?  Well its funny how I have not kept in contact with a lot of people, for the most part there have been very few people I have kept in contact with in CT. About two weeks ago I went home to visit for the weekend, and I unfortunately ran into my ex- boyfriend... He sees me and says " I am going to come and visit you in three weeks"... I think to myself, WHY????? I have been in North Carolina for four years, and you never came to visit, so why now?  A week later I get a phone call from my high school/college ex Boy friend  who says... " I am coming to visit you next week!!" WHY  I ask again????  HE says I just want to come down there and see what it is like. I have never been, and I want to see what kind of opportunities are there. Needless to say they can both come to North Carolina, but I refuse to allow them to stay at my apartment, or see me. Well maybe Ill say hey, but I have left the past, maybe the have not, but that's not my issue.... SN:  These are two different guys....  

PS: I have only dated two guys and these are the two.. I will eventually come up with nicknames for them, so you know who they are...

I have learned this in life.. If Someone is in your past there is a reason for that, If people continue to focus on their past they will never see or understand their future..  It's best to let go, and move on to what's promised for you.... 

How do you feel about your past relationships, friendships? Have you ever had to stop talking to an ex, or a best friend because you were not "there" anymore? Or you were not into the same things?

*Discuss* 

I Know my Destination Im Just not there...

Ok so I am enjoy this post- grad life, however I feel like I don't know how to get where I want to be. I know where I want to be.. The only issue is how do I get there..  As Kanye would say I know my destination.. Im Just not there in the streets. It's crazy how it seems like everyone around me has life taking off for them, and I am actively trying to have my life take off for the positive, but I just cannot seem to get things off the ground.   I am a firm believer that the sky is the limit!!!!!! Im going to get there, and it's going to be great.. Have a great Weekend, and enjoy yourself.. 

Welcome Back.. ( CUe MAse)

I needed a small break.... Or maybe a large break...

So much has happened since I stopped blogging. I graduated from Bennett College For Women, I  am currently interning with a company here in North Carolina. I am preparing for my next step after graduation.  I am back to blogging, about my encounters and the randomness I go through on a day to day basis.  These next couple of months will be crucial and I will be working on making positive moves in my life..    

Food For Thought..

I NEED these for Graduation.. Every "REAL LADY" should have a pair of Christian Louboutin's in her closet.

The Pic on the very top explains my MOOD TODAY: I just want to sit and text on my phone, and read fashion Magazines, with my Shades on!!!

Relationship Advice You need to make it through the Day:

So we all have some hidden skeletons that we NEVER want to talk about. Maybe it was things we did in our teens, or maybe when we were in our twenties. So whatever the "secret" is when do you come out and tell your long time boyfriend, or girlfriend, fiance, or husband/wife about your secrets? Or do you keep these skeletons in your closet? I meant does it really matter if you did these weird things? If this person loves you he/she should not care. ( RIGHT)

Should you tell your potential lover about your past? Or should you keep it your past, and leave it at a don't ask, don't tell basis? When dating or getting ready to get married shouldn't you out everything on the table. Who cares you did whatever years ago; why should it matter or effect your relationship..

Personally I would want to know about skeletons or anything crazy in my fiance, or long time boyfriends past. I do not think there is anything wrong with wanting to know about a persons past. It's important to know who you are dating... This is some Food For Thought I had.. I want to hear your opinion on if you want to know about Your current or lifetime Mates past.

* I am aware that these thoughts may have been slightly random today, but random makes me, me.*

Muah to the readers.. <3

What Kind OF Questions????

 So I have been thinking about when you meet a guy or girl. You have a little conversation at the location, or you have a lot of conversation. Eventually if you are digging this person you two will exchange phone numbers, and continue the conversation, which may lead into a possible date; or it will turn into absolutely nothing.

The other day my friend Rebecca and I were having a conversation about a guy she recently met. Long story short, the man was older, but he had a lot of swag!!! (LOL) She did not find out this mans age until they spoke on the phone. Not only did she find out he was nineteen years older than her, she found out he was married and had a ten year old!!!!!!!!! If Rebbecca would not have taken the time out to ask the questions, she would have never found out this information about him. 

This leads me to a series of questions, and roaming thoughts. What are the proper questions to ask before getting to personal?  How do you ask these questions before offending someone?  A lot of people believe that if one does not ask a question then it will never come out.  I want some feedback about what type of questions to ask; and when is the right time to ask these questions? 

Moving ON.. Did anyone see Harlem Heights this past Monday??

I do not know how I am suppose to feel about BET trying to create reality shows.  I am not a big fan of BET whatsoever, and I do not think Harlem Heights will last more than one season. I really wish someone would create a REAL reality show following African- American collegiate men and women.  I think it is important to show people with a college education on television, where ignorance is not promoted.  ( Ok I am done rambling)

Playing Catch Up

Sorry about the long hiatus... Life was a little crazy, and I am just getting back into the groove of blogging. As you can see I am currently adding and making some changes as promised.

Well I had a "snow day" today, therefore I was unable to run the errands I needed to run for the day. So I sat in the house, and watched "Brown Sugar;" the editing for this movie is terrible, but the actual story line is great. Hip Hop is officially dead, and this is something I truly believe. "Brown Sugar" did make me think about the time I fell in love with Hip Hop.. I remember listening to Queen Latiffa's U-N-I-T-Y Although i was young and maybe 4 0r 5 years old, I would bob my head to the beat... I remember listening to TOTAL from 1996-1998, who could forget that era.

Now this crunk music, and do the stanky leg, is HORRIBLE!!!! I hate it, it makes no sense for people to get record deals with these ridiculous lyrics. Overall its whack, and you cannot even bob your head to a beat, where women are being respected in music. This is sad, and who would have ever thought Hip-Hop would be here.


On a lighter note I spent some time in Charlotte with my friend Danielle, and we had a blast.. I cannot believe I have been in North Carolina for four years, and I have missed the CIAA every year.( SMH) the parties were cool, Danielle and I ended up partying with an older crowd OG's ( for the Slow ones, the original Gangstas) but we had a ball, the grown up crowd got it in for sure.. (LOL) unfortunately I didn't take any pictures, so I don't have any to post, from the weekend. Overall the weekend was a blast, and I look forward to the rest of the week in North Carolina when the snow melts.